Why Disappointing Your Parents Can Sometimes Be A Good Thing

Dissapointing Your Parents

Is fear of Disappointing Your Parents Keeping You From What You Really Want?…..


Dissapointing Your ParentsEver feel like you’re holding yourself back from doing what you really want because you are afraid of disappointing your parents?

Don’t worry, you are not alone.

We talk to so many kids that aren’t totally going after what they really want because they feel that then they will not fulfill their parent’s expectations.

I know in my own life I too had my share of not going after what I was passionate about as to not disappoint my mother.  My Dad was a musician and it’s something that was in my blood. My parents got divorced when I was really young and part of that was that my dad was rarely home because he was out playing gigs.  So I remember my Mom always telling us that if “we ever became musicians, it would break her heart.”

Well, breaking Mom’s heart was definitely something I didn’t want to do and there was a creative, raw talent part of me that never came out.

What I have come to realize by doing this work, is that I gave up a part of myself, something that I had raw talent for and I know that deep in my heart I would have been very good at.  Instead, I chose to stay in my comfort zone and be a “good boy.”

There’s a saying that says, “hindsight is 20/20.”

Consider that no one should stop pursuing their dreams and passions to gain anyone’s approval.  Yes, even if it means, disappointing your parents.

Consider that every time you stop yourself from doing anything you love in fear of disappointing anyone, you are actually disappointing yourself.

The most important thing in life is being happy.  Life is too short to worry about what someone else thinks you “should” or “shouldn’t do.”

So go after your dreams.  Go do what makes you happy, even if it means disappointing your parents.


Disappointing Your Parents In  A Loving Way


Being a parent isn’t easy and I know most parents will agree that they always want the best for their kids and they want to protect them as much as possible.  What they don’t understand is that sometimes by protecting them a little too much, they are actually limiting them.  They are actually even hurting them.

So if you are in a situation in which your are afraid of disappointing your parents, I encourage you to sit down with them and have a heart-to-heart talk.  Tell them how you really feel.  Realize that if they do become disappointed, it’s just some story that they are telling themselves of how things “should” be.  Realize that that is their stuff not yours.  Ultimately, believe it or not, they will GET OVER IT!!!!

So go out and live your life fully, make lots of mistakes and realize that you are only going to regret the risks that you didn’t take.

Let go of the worry of disappointing your parents, it’s only going to make you miserable.


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